A form of love that doesn’t really love the individual where they are, but insists on a transformation to become more like the lover doesn’t really seem like love to me. Christians can appear to be saying “I love you, but I want you to become more like me.”
Is this love? A Christian might respond, “but it is not love to want someone to stay where they are, their potential for transformation unused.”
Yes perhaps. But that feels a lot more like paternalism than it does feel like love.
Are we only satisfied when everyone has the same prejudices and beliefs as us?